SECRETS OF HAPPY MARRIAGES
Marriages are made in heaven but have to be nurtured on earth.
Like a beautiful garden, marriage too needs to be watered and nurtured for the
flowers of happiness to bloom. Here are a few secrets that happy spouses around
the world know and practise. Use them to enhance your marriage too.
Accept your spouse for what he or she is. Each person is an individual with
unique qualities, likes and dislikes. Do not attempt to transform your spouse
into what your idea of an ideal mate is. This can create friction in your
marriage and leave your spouse hurt that you don't care for his or her
Love is the most important ingredient in any marriage. Be creative in
expressing your love to your spouse. Surprise your spouse by taking him or her
out to a special candle-lit dinner. Write love notes and slip it into your
spouse's wallet or handbag so he or she can find them.
Romance is an important ingredient in any marriage and so is caring for your
spouse. Looking after your spouse's needs is important. It could be as simple
as picking out attire from your spouse's wardrobe for him or her to wear or
cooking your spouse's favourite dish.
Marriage is all about commitment. In today's world where men and women have
plenty of opportunities to mix, it is easy to get into an extra-marital affair.
This apart, the internet offers many avenues for cyber affairs that could later
turn into real affairs. To keep your marriage happy, resist the temptation to
have a fling or extra-marital affair.
In the Indian context, the family plays an important role in helping a couple
resolve any conflicts. Build a warm relationship with your spouse's parents and
relatives. In times of trouble, they could bring a mature perspective to the
Give & Take
Each of us has our own individual set of values, interests and habits. Living
happily with another person calls for a bit of compromise. This give-and-take
is what keeps couples together.
Don't Play The Blame Game
When things go wrong, don't blame your spouse. Instead try to see what can be
done to sort out the problem. This will go a long way in strengthening your
Incorporate these thoughts into your marriage and watch it brim with happiness.